[cmake] Fix compatibility issue with CMake 3.10 leadig to -D-pthread

CMake 3.10 overhauled FindMPI.cmake. Now -pthread ends in various
MPI-related variables and from there in MPI_DUNE_COMPILE_FLAGS. With
COMPILE_DEFINITIONS -pthread got the prefix -D.
Changed to COMPILE_OPTIONS which does not add -D.

Fixes #31